I think I understand what you are saying, but it does not solve the problem. Let me try to explain.
When I go to my profile, I see at the top 2 buttons, one says edit and one says connections. Below is the profile image, and the statistics to the right of that. Then below that is the tabbed panes box, with 3 tabs. One says contact info, one says friends list (which has the connections), and one says my stories, which is from JmyLife component. If I click on edit, and update my profile, I get a box with 2 tabs, one says portrait and one says contact info. Clicking on these both have all you say, the privacy controls next to the fields, and 1 privacy control at the top right, which when I set it makes the contact info tab not visible from another non-connected login.
So on the profile page itself, there is a box below with 3 tabs. I can hide the contact info tab since it is there when I click update my profile. But the other 2 I cannot. There is no option anywhere to do it. I even tried going to manage my connections to see if the privacy control was there and it is not. So back to the original question. How to I control privacy on the my friends and my stories tabs? They do not appear when I update my profile. How do I get them to appear there?
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