The top avatar is just a little custom javascript / php that is filtered by your user's settings (custom cb fields) for 'online only', 'search sex' and 'search distance'.
I am glad you got your editing working, fire. I do not use listtab or anything like that, I found them buggy.
I have fixed a bunch of errors on the site and combined some components, please take another look!
No offence, but the frontpage of your site is not welcome, and so web 1.
You have nice functionality with all the modules and etc, but you miss many points on design.