well I got half way there. I found a topic on how to create which made sense and then I found this code:
<span class="yourCSSclassForYourStyling">[menu class="yourCSSclassForYourStyling" caption="&91;Request Connection!&93;" img="" ] _UE_MENU_MODERATE : _UE_REPORTUSER [/menu]</span>
But it was for reporting a user so then I tried this:
<span class="yourCSSclassForYourStyling">[menu class="yourCSSclassForYourStyling" caption="&91;Request Connection!&93;" img="" ] _UE_MENU_MODERATE : _UE_CONNECTION [/menu]</span>
But that didn't work adn I'm not sure what the correct reference for connect is. I have no idea when it comes to script and stuff and would appreciate any guidance.